Addiction, compulsion and Our Personality Demons

Our Father created us for healthy and thus holy living.  Healthy is holy and holy is healthy.

The narrow road to life involves a necessary cooperation with the Creator and with the way we are created.  It is unhealthy and unholy to interfere with the way we were made to live.  Cut off the cooperation with the Creator and we cut off health and the Holy Spirit.  We become like a sailboat with no wind in our sails.

As parents we must provide the nurture needed and the order and discipline needed for our children or they will grow up in a distorted way.  Their 'personality' will limit them, restrict them and block them from healthy and holy living,  Cut off life, love and the Holy Spirit that sustains our inner being and we become vulnerable to death, disease and evil.  we wither and die cut off from the source of life like a plant blocked from the sunshine.

One place this is seen is in sexual addiction. Sexual relationships meet several needs of the human being - one of the most important being a long-term need for a secure attachment in which one is secure and receives support and comfort when needed. We have very real needs for 'love' which is different from 'sex.'

My clinical intuition is that unmet needs for love and healthy attachment within authentic relationship are associated with increased 'needs' for sex and an enhanced drive toward sexual expression. In other words when one's inner being does not receive love and affection, or cannot hold and sustain the inner assurance of being loved, one is more likely to have a sexual interest, drive and expression.
In individual with inner emptiness - a deep sense of being separated from others and the experience that one is not able to connect with them - is, therefore, much more likely to express sexual behaviour with a desperation that others would see as not natural or 'addictive.'

Individuals with such 'addiction' seem to keep options for a love and sex partner available with the same kind of desperation that an alcoholic who hides available supplies of alcohol. The similarity of this type of behaviour associated with physical addictions is what leads us to association the language of addiction to sex and love. 

Of course I do not expect all the characteristics of a drug or alcohol addiction to be present in someone manifesting sex and love addiction.  Within my experience as a Christian counsellor and prayer therapist the stronghold is just as strong as is the manifestation of the evil one in that stronghold.

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