divorce, marriage and relationship breakdown

We need to recover from, learn from and grow from our failures in in love partnerships  and marriage.


Careful rethinging is need when answering such questions as:

What is God 's core or essential plan in relation to love, sex and marriage?

How can Christians discern Life-giving (vs Vampire) relationships?

How should the church repond to a marriage where no unity, connection or love bond is present?

If God calls us to close intimate relationships with others is it a sin if we habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships and, therefore, sabotoge love.

This means that we will develop habits that allow us (unconsciously) to avoid close intimate relationships (love). These habits are like addictions. They only partially and artificially meet our real need.

Marriage is the institution many persons turn to for love, to meet the god-given need for close, safe, bonding with another.
Marriage is not Love. Marriage is built by people who habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships. Marriage is a legal institution but it comes without guarantee of love.
This means that marriages will systematically build in avoidance of close intimate relationship with one life partner.  Bonding in marriage is weak.  The marriage bond or love bond becomes strained and can break.  Therefore most of us would clearly benefit from a set of sessions in bonding focused couple therapy also called emotionally focused couple therapy.

We will very often become addicted to marriage as a way of escape from real intimate relationship. Marriage provides us with some companionship (so we are not alone), safety (another lives with us) without requiring the risk of love, the vulnerability of intimacy.  The result is no love bond or marriage bond.

George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian counsellor provides Christian counselling ( counseling / therapy ) through 90 minute in person sessions at his office in Mississauga.  As a professional Christian Marriage counsellor George provides Christian marriage counselling counseling for couples in Oakville, Mississauga, Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

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