Avoidant Peronality Disorder - How do I know if I have an Avoidant Personality?

How does one know if you have avoidant personality disorder?

It is hard to know that you have an avoidant personality disorder. Each of us is used to life as we know it. Why would we think there is anything wrong?

However if one is given to self-observation you will notice that a lot of your life is based on fear of closeness. You do a lot of things to keep social distance and avoid intimate contact with others.

You may notice that you hate and avoid conflict. You may want to have your say but then do what you can to disappear so the other cannot respond. You disappear a lot. You also lie to avoid conflict or accountability.

You give solution answers to a person in trouble but do not empathize or respond to or acknowledge their feelings. You try to fix things rather but are not good at comforting the person.

When it comes to activities that go beyond your comfort zone you will tend to stay within your comfort zone rather than break out. You avoid risks in a lot of different areas.

Especially you avoid the risk of love. You avoid activities that could lead to personal communication, affection, bonding. That is the essential avoidance of the Avoidant Personality.

What others may notice in the avoidant is their refusal to give straight answers, to acknowledge people’s feelings, to make clear straight requests. If they pay attention they may notice that the avoidant lacks depth in conversation, they are always well dressed, their home perfect and planned hospitality extravagant. The avoidant avoids high-risk situations in learning or play.