Learn how Forgiveness treats Paranoia

In the process of forgiving, what do we let go of? And what do we receive because of it?

More than you might imagine.

 If we look at forgiveness as giving up the right to attack or to get revenge upon the one who hurt or is hurting us, then it is a step into apparent vulnerability.

 Part of us - let us call it the Head - wants control and the feeling of being in control - a sense of being powerful.

 In forgiveness Head stops trying to feel powerful and chooses to be loving This means letting go of power and no longer seeing the other as an enemy.

 Notice how that is a step away from paranoia.

 In the world of spiritual principles, I find that as I let go of revenge (puts down the weapons of retaliation), then my spirit experiences true safety. God is now able to defend me.

Paradoxically, our spirit discovers true protection and less vulnerability, in the state of forgiveness than in the state of hate. 

Here is one example of how as one dies to one's self - the Head Self - one experiences true life. As one experiences the safety, peace, and love and letting go of hate and revenge, one is learning to trust the deeper truths of the spirit.

 One is, in effect, trusting and accessing the power of love and God as one's shield. One is really drawing nearer to the love source of creation and finding safety in one's connection to your source.

 In that state, there is less fear because perfect love casts out fear. Why would I be afraid of you if I know I am safe in the arms of theeverlasting God?

 In my life, learning this was a big step toward opening my heart to love, life, and God. It helped me move away from my earthly father's drive to trust the head and associated paranoia toward my heavenly father's kingdom principles.

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Forgiviness is and is not

1. Forgiveness is the decision to let go of resentment toward another. However, forgiveness is not the end of the discussion.

2. Forgiveness implies letting go of hate. But forgiveness does not mean one is not angry.

3. Forgiveness means that I stop attacking the other person. But we may still need to discuss the way you hurt or offended me.

4. Forgiveness changes my intention of hurting the other. It may not clear up my feelings.

5. In fact an open and frank discussion of what was done and what was felt msy help release the feelings around the issue.

6. Forgiveness is not needed because you were angry. Forgiveness, however, may be needed because of what you did or said when you were angry.

7. Forgiveness of someone who hurt you deeply in the past does not heal the emotional wound. Healing the emotional wound done at the time requires inner healing through listening prayer therapy of the core beliefs rooted into the foundation of the memory.

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 Registered Christian Psychotherapist in Mississauga

Registered Psychotherapist in Mississauga, Toronto Polish speaking

Anna Wolanczyk registered psychotherapist by Skype, in Mississauga, Toronto, Ontario

George Hartwell registered psychotherapist and Christian counsellor in Mississauga, 

Toronto by Skype or phone or in person

George Hartwell

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Sustainable emotional healing. heal my life?

Emotional healing that we are looking for is sustainable positive personality and emotional change. That involves deeper emotional healing.

Many forms of emotional intervention are not sustained long-term.

For example, self-change is like that. I can keep up self-change for a few months at best then things revert to the old normal.

Educational courses such as anger management to tend to help while they are going on and once they are over we revert to the old normal.

 Deeper emotional healing will be heart deep and not just head knowledge. Most counselling and therapy is focused in short-term goals and limited changes and this will not be heart change.

It may not be easy to find the one or two psychotherapists that really care about long-term change.

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George Hartwell Anna Wolanczyk Psychotherapy Blog

 Registered Christian Psychotherapist in Mississauga

Registered Psychotherapist in Mississauga, Toronto Polish speaking

Anna Wolanczyk registered psychotherapist by Skype, in Mississauga, Toronto, Ontario

George Hartwell registered psychotherapist and Christian counsellor in Mississauga, 

Toronto by Skype or phone or in person

George Hartwell

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