tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76239712024-03-12T20:00:26.109-04:00Heal My LifeLife Transformation through prayer of the heart in the clinical setting is the essence of my life work - a practice I call Life Transformation Therapy. I dream of the day when the whole body of Christ will be equipped with the tools of transforming lives through conversation and listening prayer. Blessings to you who share this vision and carry it forward. George Hartwell registered PsychotherapistGeorge C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.comBlogger103125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-26729470679419147232019-06-20T21:29:00.001-04:002019-06-20T21:29:21.741-04:00EMDR for Peak Psychotherapy
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<span style="-webkit-text-stroke: rgb(38, 38, 38); color: #262626; font-family: "Helvetica Light"; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. Repeated studies show that by using EMDR therapy people can experience the benefits of psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference. It is widely assumed that severe emotional pain requires a long time to heal. EMDR therapy shows that the mind can in fact heal from psychological trauma much as the body recovers from physical trauma. When you cut your hand, your body works to close the wound. If a foreign object or repeated injury irritates the wound, it festers and causes pain. Once the block is removed, healing resumes. EMDR therapy demonstrates that a similar sequence of events occurs with mental processes. The brain’s information processing system naturally moves toward mental health. If the system is blocked or imbalanced by the impact of a disturbing event, the emotional wound festers and can cause intense suffering. Once the block is removed, healing resumes. Using the detailed protocols and procedures learned in EMDR therapy training sessions, clinicians help clients activate their natural healing processes.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #2a2a2a; font-family: Karla; font-size: 17px;"><strong>Peak Psychotherapy</strong> makes systematic use of <a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/258271859548943840" href="http://weebly-link/258271859548943840" style="color: rgb(58, 150, 184) !important;" target="_blank"><strong><span style="color: #5040ae;">EMDR</span></strong> (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) to:</a></span></div>
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<span class="s2">More than 30 positive controlled outcome studies have been done on EMDR therapy. Some of the studies show that 84%-90% of single-trauma victims no longer have post-traumatic stress disorder after only three 90-minute sessions. Another study, funded by the HMO Kaiser Permanente, found that 100% of the single-trauma victims and 77% of multiple trauma victims no longer were diagnosed with PTSD after only six 50-minute sessions. In another study, 77% of combat veterans were free of PTSD in 12 sessions. There has been so much research on EMDR therapy that it is now recognized as an effective form of treatment for trauma and other disturbing experiences by organizations such as the American Psychiatric Association, the World Health Organization and the Department of Defense. Given the worldwide recognition as an effective treatment of trauma, you can easily see how EMDR therapy would be effective in treating the “everyday” memories that are the reason people have low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, and all the myriad problems that bring them in for therapy. Over 100,000 clinicians throughout the world use the therapy. Millions of people have been treated successfully over the past 25 years.</span></div>
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-90211146925471081792019-02-17T15:50:00.002-05:002019-02-17T15:50:49.492-05:00Avoidant Peronality Disorder - How do I know if I have an Avoidant Personality?<div class="ui_qtext_para u-ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; direction: ltr !important; font-family: q_serif, Georgia, Times, "Times New Roman", "Hiragino Kaku Gothic Pro", Meiryo, serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; padding: 0px;">
How does one know if you have avoidant personality disorder?</div>
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It is hard to know that you have an avoidant personality disorder. Each of us is used to life as we know it. Why would we think there is anything wrong?</div>
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However if one is given to self-observation you will notice that a lot of your life is based on fear of closeness. You do a lot of things to keep social distance and avoid intimate contact with others.</div>
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You may notice that you hate and avoid conflict. You may want to have your say but then do what you can to disappear so the other cannot respond. You disappear a lot. You also lie to avoid conflict or accountability.</div>
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You give solution answers to a person in trouble but do not empathize or respond to or acknowledge their feelings. You try to fix things rather but are not good at comforting the person.</div>
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When it comes to activities that go beyond your comfort zone you will tend to stay within your comfort zone rather than break out. You avoid risks in a lot of different areas.</div>
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Especially you avoid the risk of love. You avoid activities that could lead to personal communication, affection, bonding. That is the essential avoidance of the Avoidant Personality.</div>
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What others may notice in the avoidant is their refusal to give straight answers, to acknowledge people’s feelings, to make clear straight requests. If they pay attention they may notice that the avoidant lacks depth in conversation, they are always well dressed, their home perfect and planned hospitality extravagant. The avoidant avoids high-risk situations in learning or play.</div>
George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-22025726252193515752018-12-19T16:36:00.002-05:002018-12-19T16:36:47.587-05:00Learn how Forgiveness treats Paranoia<h2 class="discussion-title" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px; margin: 10px 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">
In the process of forgiving, what do we let go of? And what do we receive because of it?</h2>
More than you might imagine.<br /> <br /> If we look at forgiveness as giving up the right to attack or to get revenge upon the one who hurt or is hurting us, then it is a step into apparent vulnerability.<div>
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Part of us - let us call it the Head - wants control and the feeling of being in control - a sense of being powerful.</div>
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In forgiveness Head stops trying to feel powerful and chooses to be loving This means letting go of power and no longer seeing the other as an enemy.</div>
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Notice how that is a step away from paranoia.</div>
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In the world of spiritual principles, I find that as I let go of revenge (puts down the weapons of retaliation), then my spirit experiences true safety. God is now able to defend me.</div>
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Paradoxically, our spirit discovers true protection and less vulnerability, in the state of forgiveness than in the state of hate. </div>
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Here is one example of how as one dies to one's self - the Head Self - one experiences true life. As one experiences the safety, peace, and love and letting go of hate and revenge, one is learning to trust the deeper truths of the spirit.</div>
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One is, in effect, trusting and accessing the power of love and God as one's shield. One is really drawing nearer to the love source of creation and finding safety in one's connection to your source.</div>
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In that state, there is less fear because perfect love casts out fear. Why would I be afraid of you if I know I am safe in the arms of theeverlasting God?</div>
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In my life, learning this was a big step toward opening my heart to love, life, and God. It helped me move away from my earthly father's drive to trust the head and associated paranoia toward my heavenly father's kingdom principles.<br /><br /> <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;"><br /></span>
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2. Forgiveness implies letting go of hate. But forgiveness does not mean one is not angry.<br />
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3. Forgiveness means that I stop attacking the other person. But we may still need to discuss the way you hurt or offended me.<br />
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4. Forgiveness changes my intention of hurting the other. It may not clear up my feelings.<br />
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5. In fact an open and frank discussion of what was done and what was felt msy help release the feelings around the issue.<br />
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6. Forgiveness is not needed because you were angry. Forgiveness, however, may be needed because of what you did or said when you were angry.<br />
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7. Forgiveness of someone who hurt you deeply in the past does not heal the emotional wound. Healing the emotional wound done at the time requires inner healing through listening prayer therapy of the core beliefs rooted into the foundation of the memory.<br />
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-59494989211945073052018-12-19T15:55:00.001-05:002018-12-19T15:55:40.956-05:00Sustainable emotional healing. heal my life?Emotional healing that we are looking for is sustainable positive personality and emotional change. That involves deeper emotional healing.<br />
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Many forms of emotional intervention are not sustained long-term.<br />
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For example, self-change is like that. I can keep up self-change for a few months at best then things revert to the old normal.<br />
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Educational courses such as anger management to tend to help while they are going on and once they are over we revert to the old normal.<br />
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Deeper emotional healing will be heart deep and not just head knowledge. Most counselling and therapy is focused in short-term goals and limited changes and this will not be heart change.<br />
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It may not be easy to find the one or two psychotherapists that really care about long-term change.<br />
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<br />George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-7768276731206413412018-08-05T23:37:00.003-04:002018-08-06T14:07:12.556-04:00Christian Therapy for Codependence<h2 class="super_title_1 left" style="background-color: white; border-radius: 0px; border: 0px solid rgb(245, 245, 245); box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(36, 103, 141) !important; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto; padding: 5px 0px !important; word-wrap: break-word;">
<span class="paragraph" style="font-family: inherit "important"; line-height: inherit; margin: inherit; padding: inherit; text-align: inherit; word-wrap: break-word;">Many people go through life struggling with a Codependent Personality from their childhood. That’s why I’ve spent the last 45 years perfecting methods that help people to receive inner healing so they can break out of dysfunctional patterns and enjoy life again.<br />- George Hartwell, M.Sc. Registered Psychotherapist. <span style="color: #2a2a2a;">(416) 939-0544</span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: "open sans";"><span style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 100;">See my web site re <a href="https://www.healmylifemobile.com/codependent.html" target="_blank">Christian psychotherapy for codependency issues</a>,: <a href="https://www.healmylifemobile.com/codependent.html">https://www.healmylifemobile.com/codependent.html</a></span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal; line-height: inherit; margin: inherit; padding: inherit; text-align: inherit; word-wrap: break-word;">Regarding <a href="https://www.christian-marriage-counselling.com/codependency.html" target="_blank">Christian Marriage counselling and Christian therapy for codependency.</a></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Website for <a href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/codependency--codependent.html" target="_blank">psychotherapy in Mississauga and codependency</a>,</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;"> for <a href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/codependency--codependent.html" target="_blank">Oakville psychotherapy and codependency and codependent issues.</a> for <a href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/codependency--codependent.html" target="_blank">Toronto psychotherapy and codepndency issues</a>. </span></span><br />
<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><br /><strong style="color: rgb(36, 103, 141) !important; font-family: inherit !important; font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">Self-Help for the Codependent.</strong></span><span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">I can make a variety of self-help suggestions for the Codependent. There is a problem with that approach. </span></span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> In my experience, backed up by psychological research, self-help</span></span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> efforts </span></span></span><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">may</span></span><span style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal;"> have success for a few weeks or a few months. But, in the long-term, they</span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-weight: lighter; text-align: inherit;"> often come to nothing. </span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit; text-align: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">Old patterns come back. We revert to our </span><span style="font-size: 20px;">codependent personality</span></span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit; text-align: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">. </span></span><br />
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</strong></span><span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">1. Every attitude, </span></span><span class="" style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal;">behaviour</span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> or personality pattern that was developed in childhood is firmly planted in our memories,</span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">2. Core beliefs are embedded in our unconscious memories.</span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">3. Emotional learning, attitudes and motivations find their foundation in early memories.</span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">4. The memories with our core beliefs, attitudes, and emotional learning are not readily accessed. Important as they are they have been forgotten.</span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">1. Self-help will not be able to change learning that is primarily unconscious.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">2. Our memories </span></span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">are only open to change when they are conscious. </span></span></span><br />
<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">3. Even conscious memories only change when specific conditions are met. </span></span></span><br />
<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">4. Few are those who understand these conditions. </span></span></span><br />
<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><br /><strong style="color: rgb(36, 103, 141) !important; font-family: inherit !important; font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">So can codependency by Healed with Christian Therapy?</strong></span><br />
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">Yes, Healing involves making these memories, core beliefs and assumptions conscious. Only a psychotherapist who is up to date on memory reconsolidation will set up the specific conditions that lead to permanent change in this emotional learning which can trigger a personality change. </span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">1. A Christian therapist will have the help of the Holy Spirit and listening prayer to pinpoint the memory.</span></span></span></h2>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">2. After identifying feelings and core belief in the memory one can talk to Jesus and ask for the truth.</span></span></span></div>
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<span class="paragraph" style="line-height: inherit !important; margin: inherit !important; padding: inherit !important; text-align: inherit !important; word-wrap: break-word;"><br /><strong style="color: rgb(36, 103, 141) !important; font-family: inherit !important; font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">Codependency</strong><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> is the tendency to help, support and rescue people in a way that becomes dysfunctional. You can end up in a pattern of love relationships with broken people. There is much positive about you as the person who is </span></span><strong style="color: rgb(36, 103, 141) !important; font-family: inherit !important; font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">codependent</strong><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> ( Rescuer) to others, </span></span><span style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal;">however</span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">, it takes a toll on you. It can be a precursor to depression, Bipolar patterns, strokes </span></span><span style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal;">and</span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> anxiety. </span></span><br /><br /><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;">Codependency is a personality pattern that developed in childhood and stays behind in adulthood. It stays because it is firmly planted upon the memories, core beliefs and assumptions formed in the events of childhood. </span></span><span class="" style="font-size: x-small; font-weight: normal;">Usually,</span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> that means that mother or father </span></span><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">was</span></span><span style="color: #24678d; font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: 20px !important; font-weight: lighter;"> not fully consistently functioning as the adults in the family. There can be many reasons for that.</span></span></span></h2>
George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-18071151442327538522018-05-09T17:15:00.002-04:002018-08-06T14:51:14.635-04:00Praying for Depression based on Psalm 103<a href="https://www.healmylifemobile.com/depression-therapy.html" target="_blank">Christian Therapy for Depression</a><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #3f3f3f; font-family: "gentium basic"; font-size: 18px;">In your individual therapy sessions with George you will find:</span><br />
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<li style="list-style: disc outside !important; margin: 3px 0px 0px !important; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Dealing with foundational personality patterns established in childhood</li>
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<li style="list-style: disc outside !important; margin: 3px 0px 0px !important; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">The emotionally focused journey to our authentic identity,</li>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #646464; font-family: "gentium basic"; font-size: 18px;">George Hartwell M.Sc. is founder of the Life Transformation group of therapists who are dedicated to depth-orientated brief therapy. You can benefit from a team of experienced professionals. (George has over 40 years experience.) We have aligned ourselves with the newest psychotherapy developments as represented by Coherence Therapy and Memory Reconsolidation.<br /><br />Our mission is to provide you with significant permanent life change in a brief therapy time frame. That means without years of therapy visits. <a href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/codependency--codependent.html" target="_blank">Psychotherapy for depression in Mississauga, Oakville, Toronto.</a></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #646464; font-family: "gentium basic"; font-size: 18px;">In order to respond best to your needs, George has access to a variety of methods that will provide you with transformative experiences. For example, I use EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy (Les Greenburg and Sue Johnson), 'The Journey - Brandon Bays, and (Christian) Listening Prayer Therapy integrating the principles from Dr. Ed Smith's work, the insights of John and Paula Sandford and the prayerful use of imagination of Agnes Sanford and Leanne Payne.<br /><br />If you like we can work together to understand and resolve the root issues that linger just below the surface of your life. You can see resolution of emotions, perceptions and compulsive life patterns based in the emotional learning of your past.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #646464; font-family: "gentium basic"; font-size: 18px;">This means working with you to achieve your goals and to deal with the ways you undermine what could be a life of love, peace and joy. We are talking about engaging in an effective process of emotional healing and life transformation. This means dealing with the underlying obstacles and personality patterns that block you from the achievment of your goals and reduce feelings of depression and anxiety and increase security and confidence in your life.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #646464; font-family: "gentium basic"; font-size: 18px;">For <a href="https://www.christian-marriage-counselling.com/" target="_blank">Christian Marriage Therapy with George Hartwell in Mississauga, Oakville, Toronto</a></span>George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-75928291922325513922018-05-09T17:01:00.003-04:002018-12-19T15:41:08.853-05:00Christian Counselling, Therapy, Psychotherapy in Mississauga, Oakville, Toronto, Ontario<h2>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: #f9f9f9; color: #2a2a2a;"><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">George Hartwell</a><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/456378187793267707" href="http://weebly-link/456378187793267707" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Anna Wolanczyk</a><span style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #3f3f3f; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;"> </span><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-blog-post-link/519016600859587823/205101362946033946/in-depth-psychotherapy.html" href="http://weebly-blog-post-link/519016600859587823/205101362946033946/in-depth-psychotherapy.html" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Psychotherapy Blog</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><span style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #3f3f3f; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;"> </span><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Registered Christian Psychotherapist in Mississauga</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/247065784995149423" href="http://weebly-link/247065784995149423" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Registered Psychotherapist in Mississauga, Toronto Polish speaking</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/456378187793267707" href="http://weebly-link/456378187793267707" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Anna Wolanczyk registered psychotherapist by Skype, in Mississauga, Toronto, Ontario</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">George Hartwell registered psychotherapist and Christian counsellor in Mississauga, Toronto by Skype or phone or in person</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" href="http://weebly-link/886335870170054896" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">George Hartwell</a><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><span style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #3f3f3f; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;"><a data-cke-saved-href="https://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/george-hartwell.html" href="https://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/george-hartwell.html" style="color: #4f4f4e; text-decoration-line: none;">ttps://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/george-hartwell.html</a></span><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><span style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #3f3f3f; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;"><a data-cke-saved-href="https://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/blog/in-depth-psychotherapy" href="https://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/blog/in-depth-psychotherapy" style="color: #4f4f4e; text-decoration-line: none;">https://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/blog/in-depth-psychotherapy</a></span><br style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #717170; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px;" /><a data-cke-saved-href="http://weebly-blog-post-link/519016600859587823/409547366696309497/life-coaching.html" href="http://weebly-blog-post-link/519016600859587823/409547366696309497/life-coaching.html" style="background-color: #fafafa; color: #4f4f4e; font-family: "Open Sans"; font-size: 14px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Life Coaching by Registered Psychotherapist in Mississauga</a></span></span></div>
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<li>Report of<span style="color: #3f3f3f;"> <u><a data-cke-saved-href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/dealing-with-narcissism.html" href="http://www.lifetransformationgroup.com/dealing-with-narcissism.html" style="color: #5199a8; text-decoration-line: none; transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">marriage therapy with a narcissist</a></u></span><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">.</span></li>
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-11476720066614642372016-04-05T23:13:00.001-04:002016-04-05T23:13:30.565-04:00Why pick on the BaptistsThere is a problem with evangelicals and it is hard to know what it is the reason. We can smell something rotten but have trouble picking it out <div><br></div><div>I listened to a pray that a woman found to break a curse against her. It was long and thorough. Could that be a problem?</div><div><br></div><div>It involved a complete list of sins to confess, renounce and ask forgiveness for. Could that be part of it?</div><div><br></div><div>This is the world of the dedicated evangelical. One gets used to the pattern and focus of these zealous Christians.</div><div><br></div><div>It is no surprise when the prayer turns to driving out demons. Many are named and commanded to leave in Jesus name.</div><div><br></div><div>Listen to the language. Make a count of the themes. Sin gets lot of attention so it can be forgiven. Demons get a lot of air time so they can be commanded to leave.</div><div><br></div><div>It is like walking through a heavy rain without protection. One's senses are hit with a downpour of sins being named and then demons getting attention.</div><div><br></div><div>The dangerous question to ask is, "is it effective." I find some Evangelicals do not ask that question and they don't want you to raise it. </div><div><br></div><div>This prayers and ones like it are recited without questions about effectiveness. Don't ask.</div>George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-6221533628862510202016-03-25T22:48:00.003-04:002016-03-25T23:58:52.314-04:00Is memory unlimited?Human memory is limited. First of all everything we learned must be screened by what we already know - our perceptual system. We learn best in areas where we have already learned something.<br />
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Our short term memory is limited to about 7 bits of information at a time. If these bits are to be remembered (put into long term storage) we need to focus on them for about a minute. As a result we are limited in terms of how much we can get into our long-term storage.<br />
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Secondly we store different kinds of information in different learning centers. Factual information in one place. Emotional in another and spiritual in a third.<br />
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Facts go into our cognitive or intellectual brain but personally meaningful events - those associated with passion, feeling, rewards and punishments - these are stored in our emotional brain.<br />
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The emotional brain makes decisions, establishes our motivation and lights our passions on fire. The memory here is more of little videos of life, little drama bits with important lessons (core beliefs) that are associated with feeling. The emotional brain is going to collect memories that fit in with the core beliefs and feelings that we have already collected. We are biased in the experiences we collect and how we interpret them.<br />
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If our culture allows us, we will also experience and record information received through our psychic, spiritual or intuitive sensing. Call this the intuitive brain, source of our 'gut reactions' or our human spirit. The memory here is not of facts but of the love we have or have not received, the joy we have or have not felt, the beauty of the sunset, the great athlete, great music and the presence of Source or God. Let us call these our transcendent experiences. By the way if our human family invests love in us, then this center will grow and grow until we can experience empathy with another. <br />
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By the way factual memories are stored longer if the test - that is are made to remember them. Our emotional memories can change when they are remembered. They become open to editing,<br />
suggestion, reinterpretation when remembered. There is a period of hours after recall of an emotional memory when it is vulnerable to such influences. It is helpful for therapists to understand how that process works.<br />
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The content of our spirit or intuitive brain can be influenced by what we meditate upon. Feed in spiritually nurturing experiences and we become more filled with light and goodness. 'Memory' here is like colouring in water. It is the state of our soul. We can shape who we are at this level.<br />
In conclusion not only is memory limited but we are in constant flux. We are an ongoing process of learning and forgetting, wounding and healing, becoming more filled with light or running out of joy. The 'who we are' is a lot more important than what we remember.George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-90268102809794075602016-02-02T15:40:00.001-05:002018-12-19T15:42:38.268-05:00What is a bipolar personality and what leads to it?<div class="qtext_para" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 0px;">
First of all you need to keep in mind that the 'bi-polar' person has two different personality states: manic and depressed.</div>
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Second they may stay in these for weeks or months at a time. So if you are talking to someone you should not be able to tell if they are bi-polar unless they are in the manic stage. The manic stage is much more obvious than the depressive state.</div>
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In fact the person's 'normal' state and most frequent state is going to be depression. If they don't tell you about their 'manic' periods you should have no idea that they are bipolar in their normal depressive state.</div>
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Also remember that a lot of people can have a normal personality, yet have bi-polar characteristics, without it being a disorder. Their 'manic' state does not have the psychiatric aspects that make this a disorder.</div>
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A manic state can occur in much milder forms. The person breaks out of their normal routine and seem more energetic, be more creative, get more done, have more fun without clinical extremes.</div>
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However, this becomes problematic if the person goes on a spending spree, goes gambling, goes wild sexually, impulsive and does not get routine tasks done. This is disruptive without the signs of mental illness and impaired thinking. </div>
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The clinical disorder includes grandiose thinking, disconnecting from reality, paranoid delusions associated with mental disorders. Remember that you can have milder forms of bipolar that do not require drugs or psychiatry.</div>
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I have found an underlying personality pattern that is typically found underneath the bipolar pattern. This is a personality pattern of the super-responsible person who is always there for others, rescuing others, doing too much for others. These person can be the pillar of the family, church or social organization.</div>
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They are always there for others. What is wrong with this? They fail at self-care. They sacrifice themselves in taking care of others. They suppress their needs and oppress their inner child. It is this inner child that sometimes escapes the suppression and goes wild. That inner child breaking out is of course what gets called the 'manic' phase. So learn to take care of yourself!</div>
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My observation is that all bipolar personalities or bipolar disorders have a common basic personality type. Not everyone with this type is bipolar but, in my humble opinion, everyone who is bipolar has this type in their history and background.</div>
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The type I am referencing is called 'Super-Responsible' in my writing and I learned that type from my mentors who called it 'Parental Inversion.' (John and Paula Sandford) This type is quite common and involves feeling responsible for taking care of others, for keeping things together, and rescuing people.</div>
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I have explained more about this type in my writings such as on <span class="qlink_container"><a class="external_link" href="http://www.healmylife.com/articles/inner%20healing/spontaneity.html" rel="noreferrer nofollow" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url("data:image/gif; background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 5px; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: initial; color: #2b6dad; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Inner Healing > Spontaneity</a></span><br />
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-78407836078803556852016-02-02T15:30:00.003-05:002016-02-02T15:30:30.401-05:00What is Energy Psychology such as EFT tapping and how valid is it?<div class="qtext_para" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 0px;">
EFT tapping is effective and makes use of the property of memories that they are malleable when recalled with emotion. Emotional memories - the ones of most importance to us - can be 'edited' when they are in active recall.</div>
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In psychotherapy we help our client discover contradictory memories and experiences that will induce the emotional brain to revise the memory. We present the two memories in an active state - with emotion - alternately several times. Change in the memory occurs.</div>
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Eye movements have been used in another form of psychotherapy to accomplish the same thing.</div>
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EFT is a form of energy psychology and uses tapping on different meridian points to discharge the memory of its emotional charge. The theory is controversial, or unconventional, because it assumes the presence of the body's energy meridians. Western science has not accepted their presence although they are used in acupuncture.</div>
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The 'scientific validity' of EFT depends on a science that much of western medicine does not accept. However, true science depends on observation. If there are many observations (testimonies) of success then the method is valid. On that basis I would say it is valid. But only if you can accept 'there are more things true than are dreamt of in our philosophies.'</div>
George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-18137142289817541842016-02-02T15:28:00.001-05:002018-12-19T15:43:47.454-05:00Do we need alternatives to drug therapy for depression?<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">Several thing have happened since the initial glow of success of drug therapy for depression.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">1. The initial success, especially over a short term of 6 weeks, resulted in putting emphasis on medication.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">2. To promote the use of these medications medicine created a story about brain chemistry needing to be corrected. There was no evidence of this widely believed myth.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">3. Researching on the long-term effectiveness of antidepressants, we began to discover they were not an effective cure for depression. They are minimally effective. See: Jeremy Lawrence. </span><span class="qlink_container" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;"><a class="external_link" href="http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/antidepressant-drugs-udontu-work-ndash-official-study-787264.html" rel="noreferrer nofollow" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: url("data:image/gif; background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 5px; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: initial; color: #2b6dad; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="font-style: italic;">Antidepressant drugs don't work – official study</span></a></span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">. The Independent. 2008 February 26.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">4. Then we became more aware of how the brain reacts to and adapts to chemicals that play with serotonin reuptake. Those adjustments can leave one in worse shape than those who did not make use of antidepressants. see: </span><span class="qlink_container" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;"><a class="external_link" href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/04/120424120450.htm" rel="noreferrer" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: url("data:image/gif; background-origin: initial; background-position: 100% 5px; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: initial; color: #2b6dad; padding-right: 12px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Page on sciencedaily.com</a></span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">. That is because the brain reacts to changes (homeostasis) and makes adjustments in its own neurology by reducing the circulation of serotonin. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">5. Now we are in a that state of confusion that occurs when we trust one way and then find it is not that way. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">6. Meantime psychotherapy is learning how to be more effective in getting at root issues. Check out 'memory reconsolidation,' and 'Coherence Therapy.' </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">7. Conclusion: Antidepressants have lost their initial appeal. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">8. Alternatives like exercise, fresh air, sunshine, nutritional and herbal approaches and psychotherapy should be considered to maintaining yourself in an emotionally healthy state.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px;">Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor. This information is not medical advice. Consult a health practitioner for support and wisdom in making any changes to your prescribed medications.</span><br />
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Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-43078010886420108712016-02-02T15:22:00.001-05:002018-12-19T15:47:07.046-05:00Simple free things you can do to help get work done when you are depressed.<div class="qtext_para" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Times, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 14px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 0px;">
I am hoping to give you some really quick free things to do. They may sound too trivial to work but they do. I hope these simple things can make a difference.</div>
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1. Sunlight or UV light are needed to overcome depression. Sunlight means being outside without glasses on. The reason for no glasses is that they often have strong UV blockers in the glass and the same is true of many modern windows. Plants will not grow behind such glass and we wilt too.</div>
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2. Exercise or fitness. we know that men in depression respond really well to exercise and getting more fit. It helps our self-image too. Whatever method works for you to have regular exercise. Do not overdo it or try to do too much the first day. Go for consistency.</div>
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3. Use a time management too - like pomodoro - where you work for 25 minutes and then take 5 minutes break. That will give you some structure for your work. Don't try to do so much or get it perfect.</div>
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4. Oh, I forgot to mention that you can bring UV light inside with full-spectrum lights or black lights and that will add the UV inside and can lift depression quite quickly.</div>
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5. For sleep try some Melatonin before bedtime. Shut off all lights and do not have electronics charging or active near your bed.</div>
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You might not of thought of these simple 'free' things but they are important. Treat these simple things like medicine and let me know how it goes.</div>
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Depression is not always easy to discern, even for medical doctors, because not everyone has the problems with sleeping at night (associated with low melatonin) or trouble getting moving in the day. Some people do not show these classical signs because they are highly driven people with a strong will-power and they can just keep going.</div>
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At the core of depression is not so much mood and energy. Depression means that the core energy supply is low. Needed core energy is in short supply.</div>
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This life energy is used up by the will - 'making yourself' get up. This life energy is used up be many emotions. Depressed people even find being with people is draining. Life energy is needed for our days activities.</div>
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Depressed people may have to limit their goals for daily production because they do not have the energy to accomplish as much as they would like. It is like hoping to make a long trip but you only have so much gas in the car and you have no more resources to buy more.</div>
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You might compare it to have a flu or cold and the body is fighting with the virus. Meantime you have very little energy to do other things. That is why you advice sick people to go to bed - to conserve needed energy for the immune system.</div>
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So the main sign to look for in yourself is this lack of energy and the frustration it is causing you. You can't do what you want to do in a day. You need to budget your energy. You feel like staying in bed.<br />
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-8829881343822501832016-01-31T21:21:00.000-05:002018-06-13T22:10:07.568-04:00Forgiveness is not inner healingPeople, dear friends of Christ, do remember what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is removing one barrier between us and God - the sin barrier.<br />
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By confession of sin we overcome one of the problems with sin. when we hide our sin we also hide from God. Confession is opening up the conversation and being real. You need to be real to have good communication. Right?<br />
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The same applies to our relationship with God.<br />
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Imagine you are in your teens and you are allowed to drive dad's car. While driving you do some serious damage to the car. Now several things need to happen. 1. You need to tell your dad. (Confession.) 2. You need to ask for forgiveness from your dad. (reconciliation and freedom from guilt). 3. The car needs to be fixed and you might be asked to take some of all responsibility for that.<br />
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Note: asking forgiveness does not fix the car.<br />
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Similarly with sin. You may have made a dangerous decision such as visiting a psychic, playing with a Ouija board, going to a seance to consult the dead or attend a conference that put you under the spell of some group. This entangled you with the enemy.<br />
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You need to: confess the sin to God (open communication), ask for forgiveness from God (reconciliation) and getting inner healing or deliverance to set you free from the occult ties you have established. The forgiveness is good but does not accomplish inner healing or deliverance.<br />
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Agnes Sanford was challenged many years ago to pray for a Christian's rages. She did, and he was healed. This broadened her understanding of the kind of healing available through prayer.<br />
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She had come to believe, learn about, practice and eventually teach how to pray for others for physical healing. Being fully equipped and equipping others in this, she then had to wrap her head around the fact that she had prayed for an emotional issue and it, too, has been healed.<br />
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Physical healing is for something wrong with the body. Inner healing was related to the mind, emotions and memories.<br />
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She understood that all healing was released through Jesus and especially through his sacrificial death for our healing and for the forgiveness of sins. We know from one story that Jesus did not make a big distinction between physical healing and forgiveness of sins. See Luke 7:17-26.<br />
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This is the background to Sanford's statement that inner healing is forgiveness of sins. Inner healing is possible, as is physical healing, as the result of the completed work of Jesus on the cross.<br />
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We are now much more clear as to how inner healing can occur. It is related to the healing of memories and there is now psychological research about how memories are healed. The inner healing movement, if it embraces to revelations of Dr. Ed Smith, will become equipped to do the healing of memories through listening prayer.<br />
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This means we will no longer confuse confession, forgiveness of sins with inner healing. Each part has a place in the action.<br />
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In depth inner healing is the result of correcting unconscious core beliefs. This happens best at those times when the key memory is brought to recall. That is when the heart is open.<br />
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In prayerful inner healing we use listening prayer to receive the truth from God that will replace the core belief. We are listening for God's spoken word to us - a living word. If the memory is activated when God's word is given to us then our heart will be changed.<br />
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There is an advantage to being in a quiet, calm and restful state after Christian prayerful inner healing. This is a time of consolidation and you are allowing the change to be accepted into your memory. You are reducing interference with this process.<br />
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This is one example of soaking prayer. You are taking time to let the truth of God sink into your heart.George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-233020325551153122014-01-28T15:01:00.002-05:002014-01-28T15:02:48.915-05:00Pray for your lifeDr. Who often says 'run for your life!'<br />
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I would like people equipped to Pray for their life. Seriously.<br />
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Some situations can only handled well by those trained in prayer.<br />
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This means training in:<br />
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<li>How to set up the Jesus-in-between Shield from Curses,</li>
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<li>Being able to direct the authority of God's voice - the present active voice of God - against abusive core beliefs.</li>
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These needs are both immediate and long-term. If you and your family do not know how to handle these situations then the enemy of our souls and his very human agents will undermine, attack and eventually destroy you and your family. This is the one who Jesus said is out to rob, kill and destroy.</div>
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The problem with getting that equipping is that those who claim to teach on these topics often are used as agents of the devils and convey the teaching of demons in order to destroy the Body of Christ. For example, what you will be taught on spiritual warfare will give Satan the victory on a silver platter. When you listen to these teachers you will open the gates to your city and invite his forces to attack you. They will and do attack.</div>
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The enemies within the camp are on two wings. On one extreme are those who attack God's servants in a broad attack against everything they don't understand and cannot reconcile with scripture. These have been the witch hunters who launch and publish books against inner healing, deliverance and other works of the Holy Spirit.</div>
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However, I am also concerned with those who embrace inner healing, deliverance and spiritual warfare but implement these in such a way as to completely undermine their best intentions and cause more harm than good. In some there are many good things being taught and one error undermines the good. </div>
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I would like to talk about this error. It is an error of pride that suckers us out of the position of humility. In the position of humility, wearing the 'Cloak of Humility,' we are in a position of protection. Suckered by Pride we will become over engaged with demons and evil powers and it is that over-engagement that empowers them over us. </div>
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I will get into the details in another blog post. For now, keep your eyes on the Lord and do not get too focused on battling the enemy. Look for my articles on binding principalities and powers on either www.HealMyLife.com or www.Listening-prayer.com.</div>
George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-71534741591800120922013-07-23T20:59:00.000-04:002018-12-19T15:48:36.621-05:00Addiction, compulsion and Our Personality DemonsOur Father created us for healthy and thus holy living. Healthy is holy and holy is healthy.<br />
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The narrow road to life involves a necessary cooperation with the Creator and with the way we are created. It is unhealthy and unholy to interfere with the way we were made to live. Cut off the cooperation with the Creator and we cut off health and the Holy Spirit. We become like a sailboat with no wind in our sails.<br />
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As parents we must provide the nurture needed and the order and discipline needed for our children or they will grow up in a distorted way. Their 'personality' will limit them, restrict them and block them from healthy and holy living, Cut off life, love and the Holy Spirit that sustains our inner being and we become vulnerable to death, disease and evil. we wither and die cut off from the source of life like a plant blocked from the sunshine.<br />
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One place this is seen is in sexual addiction. Sexual relationships meet several needs of the human being - one of the most important being a long-term need for a secure attachment in which one is secure and receives support and comfort when needed. We have very real needs for 'love' which is different from 'sex.'<br />
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My clinical intuition is that unmet needs for love and healthy attachment within authentic relationship are associated with increased 'needs' for sex and an enhanced drive toward sexual expression. In other words when one's inner being does not receive love and affection, or cannot hold and sustain the inner assurance of being loved, one is more likely to have a sexual interest, drive and expression.<br />
In individual with inner emptiness - a deep sense of being separated from others and the experience that one is not able to connect with them - is, therefore, much more likely to express sexual behaviour with a desperation that others would see as not natural or 'addictive.'<br />
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Individuals with such 'addiction' seem to keep options for a love and sex partner available with the same kind of desperation that an alcoholic who hides available supplies of alcohol. The similarity of this type of behaviour associated with physical addictions is what leads us to association the language of addiction to sex and love. </div>
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Of course I do not expect all the characteristics of a drug or alcohol addiction to be present in someone manifesting sex and love addiction. Within my experience as a <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/counsellor.htm" target="_blank">Christian counsellor</a> and <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/services/credibility.html" target="_blank">prayer therapist</a> the stronghold is just as strong as is the manifestation of the evil one in that stronghold.<br />
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-30766172978922934812013-07-16T20:05:00.000-04:002018-12-19T15:49:17.521-05:00divorce, marriage and relationship breakdownWe need to recover from, learn from and grow from our failures in in love partnerships and marriage.<br />
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Careful rethinging is need when answering such questions as:<br />
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What is God 's core or essential plan in relation to love, sex and marriage?<br />
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How can Christians discern Life-giving (vs Vampire) relationships?<br />
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How should the church repond to a marriage where no unity, connection or love bond is present?<br />
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If God calls us to close intimate relationships with others is it a sin if we habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships and, therefore, sabotoge love.<br />
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This means that we will develop habits that allow us (unconsciously) to avoid close intimate relationships (love). These habits are like addictions. They only partially and artificially meet our real need.<br />
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Marriage is the institution many persons turn to for love, to meet the god-given need for close, safe, bonding with another.<br />
Marriage is not Love. Marriage is built by people who habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships. Marriage is a legal institution but it comes without guarantee of love.<br />
This means that marriages will systematically build in avoidance of close intimate relationship with one life partner. Bonding in marriage is weak. The marriage bond or love bond becomes strained and can break. Therefore most of us would clearly benefit from a set of sessions in bonding focused couple therapy also called emotionally focused couple therapy.<br />
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We will very often become addicted to marriage as a way of escape from real intimate relationship. Marriage provides us with some companionship (so we are not alone), safety (another lives with us) without requiring the risk of love, the vulnerability of intimacy. The result is no love bond or marriage bond.<br />
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #fff2cc;"><a href="http://www.healmylife.com/services/credibility.html">George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian counsellor provides Christian counselling ( counseling / therapy )</a> through 90 minute in person sessions at his office in Mississauga. As a professional <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/marriage%20counselling.htm">Christian Marriage counsellor George provides Christian marriage counselling counseling for couples in Oakville, Mississauga, Toronto</a>, Ontario, Canada.</span></span></span></b><br />
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<br />George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-9354676428800217472013-07-16T20:04:00.001-04:002018-12-19T15:49:38.866-05:00Love avoidance and marriage avoidanceWhat happens when we mess up by avoiding the marriage or love bond?<br />
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God calls us to close intimate relationships with others especially our spouse or life partner. In general we are called to "love" one another. In marriage God call us to 'cling to,' bond with, become emotionally and securely attached to our partner.<br />
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Many of us habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships and, therefore, the marriage or love bond. We mess with God's plan. We fall (sinfully) short of God's plan. We do not cooperate with God in His "putting you together."<br />
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Instead we develop (sinful) habits that allow us (unconsciously) to avoid the marriage bond. By avoiding close intimate relationships we mess with God's provision - the love bond. We too much act in ways that "put assunder."<br />
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The (sinful) habit patterns and personality patterns we fall into can be compared with addictions. Like an addiction there is some reward. Like fig leaves that only partially cover our shame and reduce our vulnerability, these habits only partially overcome loneliness and somewhat unsatisfactorily meet our need for emtional security.<br />
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Marriage is the institution many persons turn to for love, to meet their god-given need for close, safe, bonding and real communion with another. However, a civil and religious institution cannot meet our needs; cannot guarantee love.<br />
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Marriage is not, ultimately, holy. Only God is ultimately holy and the source of life, love and health.<br />
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Love, itself, is holier than marriage. Love is of God and God is the ultimate source of love. Legal marriage claims to sanctify sex but my intuition is that love bonding, the marriage bond, is what sanctifies sex, not marriage.<br />
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Marriage is not Love. Marriage is built by fallen broken people who habitually and unconsciously avoid close intimate relationships. Each of us has our dark side (the potential for evil in our emotional repertoire). Therefore each partner carries the potential to undermine their marriage. Once you let your 'dark side' take over your marriage bond, your love bond, the heart and core of your marriage will soon die, the cord of life broken. What remains is not life giving.<br />
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The sinful fallen nature in each of us will allow us to avoid close intimate relationship with God and our life partner. Our dark side will allow the marriage bond to weaken and, eventually, to break. Therefore, most of us would clearly benefit from a set of sessions in bonding focused couple therapy also called emotionally focused couple therapy. (These are links to my web site: www.HealMyLife.com.)<br />
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Marriage Addiction is dependence upon a substitute for real, holy, life-giving marriage. Marriage addiction provides some companionship (so we are not alone) and some safety (another lives with us) without requiring us to to take the risk of love bonding. In marriage addiction we avoid the vulnerability of intimacy and so fail to achieve a love bond or marriage bond. Outwardly this may look like marriage but in reality it is silent divorce. It lacks the power of God's real holy marriage.<br />
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In marriage addiction we are in a state of disobedience to God and avoidance of love bonding. We are living without a life-giving relationship. We are living in death and that is not good for our health.<br />
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What is holy is healthy and what is healthy is holy. This is why Jesus insisted on healing on the Sabbath and why he declared that man is not made for the Sabbath but the Sabbath is made for man. True love in a secure marriage bond in life-giving and healthy. So how healthy and holy is a marriage where there is no real, holy, life-giving love bond?<br />
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #fff2cc;"><a href="http://www.healmylife.com/services/credibility.html">George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian counsellor provides Christian counselling ( counseling / therapy )</a> through 90 minute in person sessions at his office in Mississauga. As a professional <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/marriage%20counselling.htm">Christian Marriage counsellor George provides Christian marriage counselling counseling for couples in Oakville, Mississauga, Toronto</a>, Ontario, Canada.</span></span></span></b><br />
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<br />George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-52420072081633299852013-07-16T19:57:00.001-04:002018-06-13T22:05:53.745-04:00Parental prayers for 3 year old afraid of monstorsThere is a new formulation of <a href="http://www.immanuelapproach.com/" target="_blank">inner healing called the Immanuel Approach</a> and the practitioners have a thorough training in various forms of<a href="http://www.immanuelapproach.com/" target="_blank"> inner healing, including TheoPhostic</a>, and have gone on to a very healthy focus on direct experience of Jesus. Here is one report.<br />
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_5614">Three year old Zevian first began to be afraid of monsters when he thought he saw one in his closet as he was getting ready for bed. His parents reassured him and showed him that there was nothing there, but he was still anxious as he got into bed and was glad to be sleeping next to his big brother. After this first episode of monsters in the closet, each night seemed to get a little worse. His mom and dad continued to reassure him, and talked to him about how Jesus was with him and would take care of him, but his fear just kept getting worse and each night he would talk about how Rawrs (his word for monsters) were going to get him. He started getting back out of bed after the usual bed-time rituals, and would come to his parents and ask to sleep with them. One night they heard his terrified shrieks and then the shouts of his siblings, and when they rushed into his bedroom they found him shaking with fear. When Janelle, his mother, picked him up he clung to her desperately, and his little body was rigid with fear. After this particularly upsetting episode Janelle began rocking and singing him to sleep each night, but she knew this wasn't solving the real problem because he continued to express intense fear that monsters were going to get him.</span></div>
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_5639">Then one night, as Janelle noticed Zevian's rising fear and tried to reassure him with, "Zevian, you're safe. Nothing's going to get you," she was shocked and dismayed when he responded, emphatically, with, "Mom, Jesus is Rawr. Jesus get me." Janelle recalls vividly, "Those words hit hard. What does a mother say to such a sinister lie placed in the heart of her sweet, little boy? I said, 'No Zevian, Jesus loves you. He would never get you.' Yet, I could see that my little boy believed this lie and my words had little effect. I was helpless to convince my son of God's goodness."</span></div>
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_6025">"Helplessness has its benefits though, because in that moment I knew only Jesus could sort out this mess. I took my boy in my arms--my heart aching to feel his body stiff with fear. I asked him to close his eyes and I prayed protection upon this moment and upon our hearts. Then I asked Jesus to show Zevian what He is really like, and I waited. Almost immediately I felt his body start to relax. At first he kept his eyes closed while a big smile crept across hi</span></div>
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_6025">s face. And then after about 45 seconds his eyes popped open, dancing with joy instead of fearful, and he laughed out, "BIG JESUS!" His whole countenance had changed as he started to pull himself out of my arms in order to get back in bed, looking at a specific place in the room as he did so (I can only guess this is where he saw Jesus). Then as he started to put himself under his covers, light and happy, he added one more gem about his time with Jesus. He said, 'Jesus like me.'"</span></div>
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_6045">Since seeing "BIG JESUS" in his bedroom that night, Zevian has been a different kid. He now regularly, spontaneously talks about Jesus, he always wants to pray, and after Janelle prays for him at bedtime he often reports things like, "Jesus says He's going to play at the park with me in my dreams." Oh, and the problem with monsters has completely resolved. There was one night a few days later when Zevian began to get fearful at bedtime, but Janelle once again prayed that he could see Jesus, and after a brief pause he laughed aloud and said, "Jesus eating crackers. He sharing with me."* Now when Zevian talks about monsters, he's the one getting them.<br /><br />This is a cool, beautiful, encouraging story, but you probably noticed that Janelle didn't coach Zevian to recall positive memories, stir up appreciation, establish an interactive connection with Jesus, and then focus on Jesus and ask Him for help regarding the monster problem. She just held him in her arms, offered a quick prayer for protection from demonic interference, and then asked Jesus to show Zevian the truth about Himself. You might reasonably ask, "So what makes this an Immanuel approach story, as opposed to just an encouraging prayer story?" The answer has to do with the context in which this simple, powerful interaction occurred. Even though this was the first time Zevian perceived and recognized Jesus' tangible presence,** he has been surrounded by the Immanuel approach for most of his life. For example, he has observed the older children at his church participating in simple Immanuel approach exercises, such as deliberate appreciation and perceiving Jesus' presence, he has observed Immanuel approach principles and tools being applied in his home with his older siblings, and he has often heard his parents talking about how they experience Jesus' presence in the context of Immanuel approach emotional healing.<br /><br />Janelle perceives that her own Immanuel work has also contributed to her ability to facilitate this simple yet profound Immanuel connection for her son. As she reports, </span></div>
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<span id="yui_3_7_2_1_1362927813388_5646">"I believe that my encounters with Jesus through Immanuel Prayer had a huge impact on Zevian being able to see Jesus. In the past, I don't think I would have really believed that Jesus would come and help Zevian in his fear. I may have said I believed it, but when it really came down to it I don't think I would have turned to Jesus. I would have believed it was up to me. Because I trusted Jesus, then Zevian didn't feel fear and hesitation from me. If I had attempted Immanuel prayer with him earlier, he may have felt my worries, questions, and fear, but since I have been having my own experiences of Jesus' Immanuel presence, Zevian was able to attune with my faith and see Jesus as well."</span></div>
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Our observation is that when Immanuel approach principles and tools are integrated into a person's church community and family (as is the case with Janelle and Zevian), we routinely see powerful Immanuel experiences with even the most basic Immanuel approach interventions (as was the case with Zevian's experience in response to Janelle's incredibly brief, simple prayer).</div>
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In the course of our correspondence about the monsters in the closet, Janelle also shared another beautiful story of Zevian's new awareness of Jesus' presence. One day Janelle was in a lot of pain regarding a piece of her own healing journey, and as she sat on her bed crying, Zevian came in and noticed her distress. He climbed up on the bed with her, gave her a big hug, and said, "You need Jesus with you." Janelle responded that she knew he was right, but that she couldn't feel Jesus right at that moment, and then she asked Zevian if he could feel Jesus. He responded promptly with, "Yes, He's right there" (pointing to the spot immediately behind her on the bed). And as soon as Zevian pointed her to Jesus, the anxiety that had previously been visible on his face resolved completely (apparently he thought she was in good hands). He then jumped off the bed and trotted out of her room to go play with his siblings. Janelle summarizes Zevian's ongoing Immanuel experience with, "Knowing Jesus is with him seems to be his normal state right now."</div>
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**In light of the fact that Zevian was initially afraid of Jesus, believing that Jesus was a monster and that Jesus would "get him," I think we can safely assume that Zevian had not had prior positive experiences in which he perceived Jesus' tangible presence (and recognized it for what it was).</div>
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-59053375666453010662013-07-16T19:53:00.001-04:002018-05-09T17:12:44.588-04:00Only God can Heal My Life<span style="font-size: large;">I made an important discovery in my life a long time ago. The best and easiest way to get psychological and emotional healing was to let God do it.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">I was working in a mental hospital - psychiatric facility with 1,200 patients. I knew a lot about mental health and was learning more as we did in service education events.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">I read a lot of self-help books. This was the 1970's. there were no e-books, blogs or even personal computers back then.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">I attended special workshops, weekend training, even a week long conference at a retreat center. I learned something from this week-long conference that always stuck with me.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">During the conference, I set up a commitment to a self-change project. I even had an accountability partner. We met every week to check in and encourage one another toward our change target.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">I do not remember what the change target was. I do not remember any of the meetings that Wayne and I had together. All I remember is that the conference was in the summer and that sometime in the fall we stopped meeting and the change stopped. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;">For all the education, commitment, cooperation and time that we invested, we had not achieved any significant change. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #fff2cc;">George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian counsellor provides Christian counselling ( counseling / therapy )<a href="http://George%20Hartwell%20-%20%E2%80%8Ba%20Christian%20counsellor,%20and%20a%20registered%20psychotherapist,%20serving%20Mississauga,%20Toronto,%20Oakville,%20Burlington,%20Ontario%20George's%20Christian%20Counselling%20Therapy%20process/" target="_blank">George Hartwell - a Christian counsellor, and a registered psychotherapist, serving Mississauga, Toronto, Oakville, Burlington, Ontario George's Christian Counselling Therapy process</a> through 90 minute in person sessions at his office in Mississauga. As a professional <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/marriage%20counselling.htm">Christian Marriage counsellor George provides Christian marriage counselling counseling for couples in Oakville, Mississauga, Toronto</a>, Ontario, Canada.</span></span></span></b><br />
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George C. Hartwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15338349080826396477noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7623971.post-58719530097824619222013-07-16T19:52:00.000-04:002013-07-16T19:52:22.606-04:00Be a Friend of Your Heart<br />
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Psychology is starting realize that we have two control and decision-making centers in our brain. They even could be seen as two 'selves.' There is the cognitive brain and the rational self. Bern wold call that our Adult.</div>
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There is the emotional brain and the passionate self. Psychology is beginning to find good reason to hold that the passionate self is engaged when we make decisions and that the cognitive brain is unable to make decisions apart from this engagement of the emotional brain.</div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">To complete the picture, in my Christian model of personality there is a third self </span><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px;">which is the human spirit. This is based on the understanding that </span></span></span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">our inner being is a spiritual being. It based on the biblical account of </span></span><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">God's breath (Spirit) giving Adam life. It is my understanding that the spirit permanently leaves the body at death and, temporarily, in experiences where we are 'out of our mind' or 'astral travelling.' </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">You occupy your mind by developing and maintaining a clear strong sense of identity,. A strong identity is found in persons who can make firm 'I" statements. Those with a weak sense of identity quote others and do not speak for themselves.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">One's identity is also expressed through emotions. It reflects a strong identity to be emotional when appropriate. It weakens your identity if you suppress your emotions. When you are without emotion you are out of touch with your identity.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">This flow of energy is, </span></span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">in my Christian model of personality, access from a nonphysical source. The human spirit - in this model - acts like an antennae t</span><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px;">hat collects energy from nonphysical space. That energy is the source of life. </span></span></span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">That energy is spiritual. Some might calls this energy Chi, or psychic energy. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">The Bible uses various images such as 'streams of living water,' or 'light of the world' as well as images of breath, wind and Spirit to refer to this invisible life sustaining energy. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;">In</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"> my Christian model of personality, </span></span>hat energy is the source of life. expression of this energy is in passion and emotion. In emotionally healthy (intelligent) people this energy is moving, passion and emotion are active and present in the person's face, eyes and voice tones. </div>
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Life is a flow and those who enter the flow and allow the flow are healthy. This means that healthy people experience and express their feelings. Being a friend to your heart means you find lots of healthy ways to be expressive of who you are with feeling. People pay attention when you have feeling about what you are saying because that makes it personal.</div>
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Let go of all that self control if it turns you into a talking head. People do not like to listen to talking heads because of the lack of emotion. </div>
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If all else fails, let your emotions out! You MUST, however, do this in a totally responsible way, never infringing upon another person’s space or making a nuisance of yourself.</div>
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<span style="font-size: 13px;"> The biblical term for the energy within us is spirit. The energy of life is received in our spirit and flows through our heart - our emotional center.</span></div>
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God's breath gave Adam life. The Hebrew word for breath and for wind is the word spirit in Hebrew . Another way to think of spirit is as being. Being relates to the verb 'to be.' Think of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob giving Moses a 'name' foor God based on the verb 'to be. What would that look like? </div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">We need to appreciate that a name in ancient time allowed on to control the one named. That is one significance of Moses not really getting a name but an action statement based on the verb to be. What God said is </span></span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 20px;">something</span></span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 20px;"> like "I am who I am"or "I will be who I will be."</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Oxygen, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">In other words Moses did not get a nice label to say who sent him back to Egypt to free the slaves. Instead he got a phrase asserting God's right to be who he chose to be. Say "I am" sent you. Moses needed a sense of awe and humour to understand what God was saying to him.</span></span></div>
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'What is spirit but the being energy As a <b>Christian therapist</b> I chose to use I call it the flow of the spirit</div>
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Let it out and get your psychic energy moving! It will absolutely change your state. T</div>
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If all else fails, let your emotions out! You MUST, however, do this in a totally responsible way, never infringing upon another person’s space or making a nuisance of yourself.</div>
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So, hop on your bed or the couch, lie down and kick and scream.<br />
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<b style="color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; line-height: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #fff2cc;"><a href="http://www.healmylife.com/services/credibility.html">George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian therapist provides Christian counselling ( counseling / therapy )</a> through 90 minute in person sessions at his office in Mississauga. As a professional <a href="http://www.healmylife.com/marriage%20counselling.htm">Christian Marriage counsellor George provides Christian marriage counselling counseling for couples in Oakville, Mississauga, Toronto</a>, Ontario, Canada.</span></span></b></div>
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